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It’s the final guest episode of the year and I am so excited to be joined by Annelise McCarthy, owner and founder of ‘Her Speaking Coach’. This week, we’re delving into the often intimidating world of confidence, communication, and self-belief as Annelise explores the five factors that frequently hinder women from speaking confidently: fear of judgement, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, comparison, and people-pleasing.

We discuss how these factors can be interconnected and how they can impact our ability to speak up and trust ourselves. Annelise stresses that building confidence isn’t solely about mastering the technical aspects of speaking; it’s also about cultivating a resilient mindset, and embracing your individual voice.

External validation is a natural human need, but the journey towards self-belief involves finding a balance between seeking validation and developing internal self-trust. Remember, building confidence is a continuous journey, and it’s crucial to prioritise self-compassion, self-awareness, and a dedicated commitment to challenging these limiting beliefs.

Episode highlights:

  • How confidence in speaking is not just about having the right tools or techniques but also about working on your mindset, voice, and body language,
  • Addressing the challenges people face when trying to express themselves, advocate for their ideas, and overcome self-doubt in various aspects of their lives, not just in formal presentations,
  • The importance of confident listening – confident communication involves both speaking and listening effectively!

“The more that you avoid that fear, you validate the fact that it’s scary.”
Annelise [10:45]

“It’s so hard to know where to start with breaking out of those things when they’ve been such ingrained patterns. I’ll think that I’ve got over a hurdle I’ve been having, but then something will happen… and it kind of rears its ugly head again.”
Emma [26:26]

“We talk about these powerful tools that we can use to overcome that external validation piece and to overcome perfectionism, whatever it might be. I think it’s really human to want to be validated.”
Annelise [28:50]

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